I am an Army Wife, key word, WIFE.

The title says it all, I am an Army Wife, proud one, but more importantly I am a wife. Other things I am include mommy, house keeper, cook, bus boy, an adult, and most importantly, a Christian.

It seems to me like lately more people just want to label everything, and everyone. Stereo types only exist if you let them. All the labeling in the military spouse world is BEYOND me. "Dependopotamus" is the worst I've heard so far. A stay at home mom or spouse that does nothing but sit and leach off of the service members pay/benefits, I hate to break it to you but, things like that do not just happen in a Military household. That is not what all Military spouses that stay at home do. That is what individuals (no matter what situation) choose to do on their own. Another one is that mil spouses just cheat cheat cheat when the Soldier is away. Again, something that individuals decide to do on their own. And "Tag chasers" now we won't touch that one bc I still don't get that one fully. Are there people like this? I'm sure. Is it my place to judge them? No.

Being a WIFE, no title, just WIFE has it's responsibilities in itself. The Bible talks all about that.
  Ephesians 5:22-33 For wives, this means submit to your husbands as to the Lord. For a husband is the head of his wife as Christ is the head of the church. He is the Savior of his body, the church. As the church submits to Christ, so you wives should submit to your husbands in everything.

 For husbands, this means love your wives, just as Christ loved the church. He gave up his life for her to make her holy and clean, washed by the cleansing of God’s word. He did this to present her to himself as a glorious church without a spot or wrinkle or any other blemish. Instead, she will be holy and without fault. In the same way, husbands ought to love their wives as they love their own bodies. For a man who loves his wife actually shows love for himself. No one hates his own body but feeds and cares for it, just as Christ cares for the church. And we are members of his body.

As the Scriptures say, “A man leaves his father and mother and is joined to his wife, and the two are united into one.” This is a great mystery, but it is an illustration of the way Christ and the church are one. So again I say, each man must love his wife as he loves himself, and the wife must respect her husband.

People misinterpret this in so many ways. Some only see the "wives submit to husbands part" that's clearly not all of it. The word submit as defined in dictionaries is not what this verse is saying. The way I see it is we are to lift up and listen and be to our husbands what the church is to Christ, and in turn the husband is to love and guide the wife as Christ does the church. It is argued that it's not mutual, but the responsibilities wives have differs from the husbands but they are both significant and they work together perfectly.

I was a wife to Tj for 5 years before he joined the service. Joining the Army was something he had to do. Responsibility as a husband and father to provide and if nothing else was going to do so, Army it is. Being an Army wife is different in so many ways, you learn to speak in acronyms otherwise you will never understand what they are talking about, you learn the break down from Division, Brigade, Battalion, etc.. (which took me a while), you sometimes are alone doing everything by yourself from grocery shopping to bed time stories, but you do it all in support of your soldier who is supporting his country. In the end you are still a wife, no title, nothing, just a wife bc at the end of the day that Soldier is still a man.